Fight Jealousy: These tips can help

Effectively fight jealousy

Whether it’s your partner staring at someone else or your best friend suddenly seeing other friends, jealousy can have many causes. We have put together some tips that can help you.

• In a partnership: Concentrate on the things your partner does for you. Even small things can be hidden tokens of love. Don’t be too critical.
• If you notice that you are fantasizing and cannot prove anything to your partner, such as an affair, then consciously question the truthfulness of your thoughts.
• Check whether your thoughts are perhaps feelings from your past. If you think your partner might find someone else more attractive, those are solely your thoughts and not your partner’s.
• Acceptance: This attitude is designed to help you accept that you are jealous at the moment. Your thoughts are usually the trigger for jealousy . Fear of loss also plays a role here. Question yourself and try to find out where this fear comes from.
• Talking is gold: Express your needs to your partner or girlfriend without making assumptions. If you lack attention, then verbalize it. In this way, your partner or your girlfriend can also change something.
• If talking to friends or partners doesn’t help you, fight your jealousy with books or specialist literature on jealousy. This is how you get to know yourself better.
• Distraction is always good when your thoughts only revolve around one topic. Go to the gym or relax with yoga. Going for a walk or meeting friends can also help.

Causes of Jealousy

Most of the time, the causes of feelings of jealousy lie deeper. This is a protective mechanism due to evolution. The fear of losing someone important who helps you survive, which was almost impossible on your own.

• The triggers for strong jealousy in adulthood are usually in one’s own childhood. It depends on the continuity of the relationship our parents had with us and the bond we have with them.
• Little trust in one’s parents makes us feel as a child that we are not important and that we could lose our parents. That erodes self-esteem.
• Jealousy can also only be triggered in adulthood by an actual breach of trust, such as an affair. The deception in the partner is so great that trust suffers as a result.
• Even the unexpected death of a loved one can trigger such a strong fear of loss that we don’t want to lose our partner or best friend and start clinging.
• You should then definitely see a therapist and work through your negative feelings. He may also be able to combat your jealousy with hypnosis.
• With the help of your thoughts, pathogenic behavior patterns can be recognized in hypnosis. It promotes your self-knowledge and usually helps to overcome negative feelings with just a few sessions.
• Deeper causes can then be treated with appropriate therapy methods and give you new courage and a clearer awareness of the current situation.