Signs of cheating: How to recognize infidelity

10 signs of cheating

The most obvious indication of an imbalance in a relationship is often your own feelings. If everything suddenly feels different for you or certain situations constantly make you uncomfortable, you should take the signs seriously.

• 1. Gifts out of the blue: While you used to have to beg for gifts, now they come unexpectedly and again and again – even if there is no reason.
• Now, this isn’t proof, but you should stay alert because your partner may want to salve their guilty conscience or apologize for coming home late.
• 2. Your partner uses their smartphone excessively: Watch your partner while he is using the smartphone. He may smile more often or get irritated when you describe your observation.
• It’s best to ask him what’s so funny or who texts him so often. If he evades or doesn’t want to tell you, be alert. However, you shouldn’t be overly suspicious either – it could hurt your partner.
• 3. Your partner makes a type change: Your partner uses a perfume more often, or a whole new scent, and begins to constantly dress up before leaving the house. If he has never done this before, it is striking.
• Maybe someone gave him a tip that he’s taking to heart, or maybe he really wants to impress someone. This sudden change is particularly suspicious in men.
• 4. Very little or no sex: Love  life often has its ups and downs . Men are more likely to go to extremes when they have a crush on someone else: strong desire for sex or no desire at all.
• In women, fluctuations are often normal. However, if you feel an almost intrusive desire in your partner or rejection to the point of avoidance, this could be a sign of infidelity.
• 5. Your partner’s friends behave differently: Not all of your partner’s friends will approve of their infidelity, but they usually want to behave loyally and cover up their faux pas.
• His friends avoid you with their eyes or seem nervous in your presence. When telling stories, they falter or end them abruptly. Talk to her about it and confront her with your suspicions.
• 6. Your partner leaves the room during phone calls: It used to be no problem to phone in front of your partner, but now he leaves the room as soon as the mobile phone rings. Confront your partner about it and ask.
• His reaction will show you whether it was just an important work phone call or whether he reacts irritably and accuses you of imagining things. Next time, try to look at the display inconspicuously.
• 7. New hobbies: Before, your partner had little interest in doing anything or fulfilling himself. Suddenly he is constantly leaving the house to pursue his new “hobby”.
• You should definitely start the conversation if your partner doesn’t say anything about it and ask him that you would like to be part of it. If he avoids or never says anything about it, you should pay attention.
• 8. Constant argument: Your partner often addresses your behavior or characteristics that make you a person and criticizes them. You can’t please him. It’s just never good enough.
• It becomes critical when typical characteristics of the partner are suddenly perceived as disturbing and often lead to conflicts . Try talking about it – maybe your partner is just stressed out right now.
• 9. Constantly hanging out with friends: Previously more of a couch potato, now all of a sudden active. Ask your partner what they have been up to and if you can come along. 
• If he denies this again and again, there could be something else behind it. If in doubt, you can ask his friends with whom he was supposedly traveling.
• 10. Suspicious signs: hickeys, condoms in pocket, and the smell of someone else’s perfume. All this strengthens the suspicion of infidelity.
• You should never focus every sign on yourself. It is often the sum of several inconsistencies and contradictions that simply do not fit together. When in doubt, always seek dialogue.
• There’s no definitive evidence of cheating, so you should watch for abnormalities for a while. Always question your behavior and what part you could have in the behavior of your partner.