Why am I not getting pregnant? Tips for waiting

Why am I not getting pregnant?

As you age, conception becomes more difficult. A 20-year-old waits an average of two and a half months for the pregnancy, while the waiting time for a 40-year-old is two years on average. A waiting period of more than a year is not uncommon for those over 30. In our article ” If you don’t get pregnant ” you will find more detailed information on when we actually speak of infertility and what reasons can lead to it. Also in our articles on “ female infertility ” and “ male infertility ”.” for more information. Overall, however, it can be said that with increasing age, a little patience should be brought along. Young couples, on the other hand, can console themselves with the fact that they still have plenty of time to fulfill their desire to have children.

Replace bad habits with good ones?

Wouldn’t this be a good time to quit smoking, learn relaxation techniques and yoga, or exercise? There are numerous changes in your lifestyle that will relax you and make you fit at the same time. In our “Getting pregnant ” section you will find many tips on how to support your fertility.

Avoid stress when trying to have children

Don’t worry if you haven’t gotten pregnant in the first few months. While your concern is understandable, you should not put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Stress is also a factor that can reduce your fertility. So use the waiting time to prepare yourself physically and mentally for the pregnancy.

Use the fertile days

Some couples find it helpful to find out about fertility and thus gently help the targeted conception along the way. It is easy to find out about a woman’s fertile days and to organize your life as a couple accordingly. Because conception is only possible on about six days of the menstrual cycle. Find out more in our “Getting pregnant ” section” in detail about all possibilities to determine your fertile days. Of course, you can then try to have more frequent intercourse on those days. However, your common desire should be in the foreground and not the “compulsion”. But a nice dinner for two, a short weekend trip or other ideas help to create the right mood during this time without being forced. If it still doesn’t work right away, consider: even in the most fertile phase, fertilization only occurs with a probability of around 30 percent. And even if fertilization then works, only about a third of the fertilized egg cells continue to develop. Under these conditions, it is clear that you have to be patient even with a “more planned” approach.

When should you seek medical help?

Depending on your age – as described above – a waiting period of one to two years is quite normal. If you don’t get pregnant during this time despite regular unprotected intercourse, it could be that you or your partner have problems that make conception difficult. In this case, you should consult a doctor to discuss causes and possible solutions to the problem. Because very many cases can be solved with today’s medical possibilities of hormone therapy or with methods of artificial insemination . If there is already a suspicion of infertility based on your past, you should consult a doctor sooner. Check out other posts from our infertility section to learn more about how to get afind a qualified and suitable doctor and how to prepare for an appointment with a fertility specialist .

Time together

You and your partner could also shorten the time you are waiting for your dream baby with joint activities and trips. Beautiful excursions and trips just for two are fun and also have the advantage that you can really enjoy a lot of relaxed time together. And the relaxation and time will also help you in your sex life and make conception easier. Once the baby is born, togetherness becomes rather rare. So why shouldn’t you enjoy the time a little too?