These worries accompanied you during your pregnancy

Together with our partner MAM, we asked you to tell us about your concerns during pregnancy. 95 users took part in our survey and told us emotionally and honestly about their experiences. We’ll tell you what they answered.

Fear for the baby’s health

One theme has dominated MomaSquad users’ responses: concern for the baby’s health and fear of miscarriage:

The risk of premature birth. And the consequences of this for my child. I spoke to my husband and my mother about this. That was a really important topic for us.

I was very afraid of a miscarriage or that something was wrong with the child. So I got overly anxious.

After two miscarriages in 2012, until I started feeling the movements regularly, I was afraid that no heartbeat would be detectable at the next check-up. That’s how it was with the first miscarriage in the 15th week of pregnancy.

That my child is born sick, has a disability or has a miscarriage.

I’ve always been concerned about my baby’s health.

That my child could be harmed by my existing type 1 diabetes mellitus, that I would lose the embryo again, that I wouldn’t be able to have a normal pregnancy.

The worst was when my baby didn’t kick for a day. I always freaked out there. Luckily we had a healthy daughter.

Is my baby okay? is his heart beating is it healthy

For the first few weeks I worried if the baby would implant. Later I worried if it was healthy, if its heart was beating, if it was developing properly.

Is everything okay with the baby? Hope it’s not too soon…

In the first few weeks I was particularly worried that the little worm wouldn’t make it. I had and still have a lot to do professionally and in my studies and am currently working on my bachelor thesis. On top of that, it was already more difficult for us to get pregnant for health reasons. I kept thinking that this could all be too much for such a small thing.

Pregnant women ask themselves many questions

During pregnancy, expectant mothers naturally want to do everything right – this puts many women under pressure and raises questions:

I think you worry about almost everything: Am I eating enough or too much unhealthy food? Am I moving enough, how heavy can I lift? Overall, just enjoy this unique time and try not to worry too much.

What can I do without endangering my baby?

Am I eating well enough, am I drinking enough, am I moving enough?

Most often I was afraid that taking antibiotics could harm the baby. Otherwise, I worried around the clock whether I was eating the right things, whether I was moving properly, whether the shower was too hot, etc.

Am I doing everything right, how do I eat optimally?

Complaints are troublesome

The symptoms during pregnancy also cause problems for MomaSquad users:

I had a lot of trouble with my balance and circulation. Since I passed out, I was naturally afraid of falling on my stomach.

I felt dizzy and my hands and feet tingled.

This is the first pregnancy. I am now almost 40 weeks pregnant and therefore in the starting blocks. Sometimes I realize the pregnancy and birth more through the physical impairments than I can mentally prepare for. Among other things, I suffer from symphysis pain, very severe edema with high blood pressure and recurring infections. I don’t know a lot and only now have to deal with it.

Nausea, vomiting, sleeping problems, heavy legs…

Financial and organizational concerns

Financial and organizational worries accompanied you during your pregnancy:

Since this is our second child, there were relatively few questions and concerns about the pregnancy itself. The pregnancy was mainly accompanied by existential fears, because, even though we made a conscious decision to have another child, the financial factor naturally plays a major role nowadays.

Do my financial means suffice?

I was worried about informing my employer about the pregnancy and afraid of his reaction.

Eventually, fear came about financially. I think every young family has this worry at a certain point that the money won’t be enough and how everything is going to be managed. This concern did not go away even until the end of the pregnancy.

Is there enough money to fulfill bigger wishes?

Can we find a new apartment in time?

Will it be a girl or a boy?

Some parents envision a future with a boy—or are particularly excited about raising a girl. Then knowing what gender the baby will actually be can be irritating at first:

I had to deal with this situation and fact shortly after we knew what gender to expect. Dreams and reality went different ways here. This calmed down after a few days or after a week. Now we’re really looking forward to it.

Birth is a wonderful experience. But at the same time an event that worries many pregnant women in advance:

When does it start and how will it go? Those were the worst questions.

I wonder if the child turns. I’m in the 34th week of pregnancy, but it’s still transverse. I’m afraid of a cesarean section.

Will the birth go without problems?

I was more worried towards the end as I was already over ET and worried about an induction.

How bad will the pain be during childbirth?

Hopefully it won’t be a cesarean due to the lengthy stay in the clinic.

The only concern was whether the birth would go well.

The thought of giving birth worried me: But it wasn’t the birth itself that concerned me, but rather questions like: Which hospital, will the staff respond to my wishes, which midwife will look after us?

Whether the birth will go well and whether I will manage to get through the birth.

Can I make it to the hospital in time? Will it be a miscarriage?

Getting into the new role

MomaSquad users are also concerned about the future and their new role as moms:

How will it be when the baby is here? Will we be good parents?

Whether I have everything after the birth that the little man needs and whether I can breastfeed and diaper properly.

I worry about the question of all questions: What will it be like once the baby is here? Can we grow together as a family?

I was very afraid that I wouldn’t be able to love my child after birth.

Can I care for my child despite rheumatism?

What will happen when my husband takes maternity leave and I go to work. Will I be able to cope with the additional psychological burden with three children and if I can do justice to all the children?

How will my job continue after maternity leave? Career break with 20 hours a week?

Can I do all this with two children? Do we need a bigger apartment? Who will represent me at work?

Isn’t my job too tiring? Do I really have enough time for my baby despite my job?

A couple becomes a family

A couple becomes a small family when they are born. This can be an enrichment, but also a challenge:

I was afraid that my relationship would not withstand the whole thing.

Will my husband support me enough?

My biggest concern was that after four months of moving in together, my partner wouldn’t want the baby, especially since he kept saying he didn’t know if the relationship would last.

Likewise, a problem that may sound rather banal to outsiders worries expectant mothers:

How do I get rid of the pregnancy pounds?

I am very concerned about my weight.

Despite many worries, of course, the huge anticipation of the baby remains. We thank the participants and wish them all the best!