Tips for talking to the teacher
Talking to the educator is necessary when you have the feeling that your child is having problems in kindergarten. To ensure that such a crisis meeting is as constructive as possible, we have put together a few tips for you here.
Basic rules for the conversation with the educator
A conversation with the teacher is often the result of the following situations: Your child comes home from kindergarten and has bruises on his shins. After asking several times, she says that another child kicked her and the teacher doesn’t really do anything about it. Your child may also refuse to go to kindergarten because they are excluded from the group and feel lonely because they do not get any support from the educator. Then you are probably angry and cannot understand why your child is left alone with his problems. But before you rush to the kindergarten and run mad with rage, take these basic rules to heart for a conversation with the kindergarten teacher. Because only if the meeting is constructive,
1. Appointment for the conversation with the educator
You should make an appointment with the teacher to talk to them. Then you will have enough time to talk about any problems and the meeting will not be disturbed by other attendees. It is also important that you do not overwhelm the educator with your concerns. It is best to speak privately and without other parents or children.
2. Preparation for the conversation with the educator
The conversation with the teacher should be well thought out by you. Which issue would you like to talk about specifically and which problems would you like to address? If, in your anger, you point out all the problems of the last time at once in a completely incoherent manner, the teacher will feel offended or she may even react insulted and defensively.
3. Prevent accusations
When speaking to the preschool teacher, try to get your point across in a calm and composed, yet confident manner. Avoid generalized accusations, reproaches, or personal attacks. Otherwise the educator feels cornered. It is important to explain that you want to improve the climate for your child in the kindergarten and that you hope for your help.
4. Pay attention to your tone of voice when speaking
When explaining your worries and problems, don’t change your tone of voice. You are two adults who both only want the best for your child and can talk about it in a relaxed manner.
5. Use constructive criticism in the conversation
If you criticize the situation in the kindergarten when talking to the teacher, make sure to use constructive criticism. Don’t just protect your child and yourself, but also listen to the opinion of the teacher. Maybe she has a different view of the situation and can take some of your worries away or calm you down.
6. Inform management
If your worries fall on deaf ears or serious problems are not addressed by the teacher, contact the next higher authority, in this case the kindergarten management.
If you manage to have an objective conversation with the kindergarten teacher and bring your problems and worries closer to her, this will lead to an improvement in the situation for your child. It will feel good again and you can bring it to kindergarten in the morning with a clear conscience.
