Relationship problems: separation or not?
When the relationship problems become too much and cannot be solved, thoughts of separation accumulate and one asks oneself: maybe everything will be better after a separation? We tell you what to do when relationship problems arise and when to consider breaking up.
What to do with relationship problems?
The thought that one has problems in one’s partnership is becoming more and more established. The basic question you should then ask yourself: Is there any possibility that you can still save the relationship? The partners should try to find out whether there is still a healthy basis, whether there can still be a common path. Do shared memories, for example, still trigger feelings of happiness despite the relationship problems? Is it still possible to laugh together and escape the daily grind ? Parents in particular should have the will to set all the wheels in motion again to save the relationship.
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Solve relationship problems through couples counseling?
If both partners are willing to try each other again, couples counseling is very suitable. The relationship problems are discussed there. In this way you can find out whether the partnership still has a future or whether it would be better to separate. Counseling for couples is offered by municipal and church or independent organizations such as pro familia . The consultation is mostly free.
Relationship issues: staying together for the kids?
Parents’ relationship problems are difficult for children to cope with. Whether they remain silent or yell, children often blame themselves for their parents’ arguments. Such phases should therefore never last long and both partners should work on a solution. Family therapy is often helpful. Basically, however, the decision for or against a separation should be made independently of the children! Parents shouldn’t stay together just for the kids. Their relationship cannot be made dependent on the wishes of the children.
How do relationship problems affect children?
- Conflictual relationships usually have worse effects on the long-term development of the child than a successful separation.
- It is not good for children when their parents are unhappy and dissatisfied.
- Parents are role models for children. They should exemplify clear relationships and not an ideal-world façade.
- There’s no point in postponing the breakup in the hope that the child will care less about it a few years later: there is no such thing as an “ideal age for divorce.”
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When are relationship problems unresolvable?
Does the conflict phase last too long and have various attempts been made to solve the relationship problems? In this case, a separation is necessary. If you can’t get rid of a deep aversion to your partner, it’s better to break up.