Relationship yes or no: You should ask yourself these questions

Good prerequisites for entering into a relationship

• Jumping from one partner to another, making as few commitments as possible and just having fun? This is no longer what you want. Your wild phase is behind you. Instead of partying at night, you prefer to meet up with friends on the couch to watch a movie and chat. You no longer feel like you’re missing out on single life.
• you know who you are You like yourself as you are. You are at peace with yourself. Only when you have found the path to self-love can you also allow someone else to love you.
• You are no longer constantly looking for “something better”. You have understood that no one is perfect and everyone has their flaws and quirks. Because that is exactly what makes personalities, the perfect partner does not exist.
• You’re over your ex-partner. You’re not texting each other all the time anymore, you’ve deleted all your photos and being reminded of him doesn’t make you unhappy anymore. Then you are definitely ready for a new partnership.
• You don’t just want a relationship so you won’t be alone anymore. You want someone by your side to spend your life with. A confidant, a best friend, a supporter who is always there for you. And for whom you would do the same.

Bad prerequisites for entering into a relationship

• You only need/want to take care of yourself right now. You need time for yourself and you feel that. Until you have changed and adjusted the things in your life that are holding you back, there is no room for a partner by your side. First of all, your own well-being is in the foreground.
• You are enjoying the benefits and freedom of your life as a single. Why put limits on yourself when you can just do whatever you want? A solid bond would not fit your current lifestyle and feelings at all.
• You’re not good at taking compliments, you’re not at peace with yourself, you’re not open to being spoken to and getting involved with someone.
• You see flirting as an adrenaline rush and an adventure. You don’t want anything serious about it.
• If you have a choice, you’d rather go to a party than a date. Couple evenings for two on the couch make you bored.
• You’d rather spend time alone than as a couple. At least for now. Of course, this can change over time or just be a phase, but unless you can imagine regularly sharing a lot of time with another person, you should keep your freedom.
• Your ex-boyfriend is still very present in your life. You think about him all the time, still have a lot of contact, you write often, see you. You feel that you are not over him yet. You would only ever compare new partners with him.
• When friends tell you about relationship problems and keep whining at you, you’re just happy to be single and take the stress out of it.
• You have a problem trusting others. Before you start a new relationship, you should work on it.
• You feel like you always fall in love with the wrong person. One bad boy after another that broke your heart? Find out what you really want.
• You have too high expectations and unrealistic ideas about a relationship. As long as you have an overly idealized image of a potential partner, a relationship can’t work out, because nobody will come close to such a dream.
• You’re still too hurt from your last breakup. Your emotional world feels empty and there is simply no room for a new one at the moment. Focus on yourself, then your feelings will recover and you will be ready for a new beginning.

Is he the right one?

If you’ve already met someone and are wondering if you should be in a relationship with that person, then check if the following points apply.

• At your meetings, there was the right balance between conversations about God and the world and quiet moments when you just looked into each other’s eyes and smiled.
• You don’t have the feeling that you have to pretend, but behave as if you were out with your best friends. You can laugh with him about even the most silly things, be a real child inside or tell him your biggest secret.
• If you imagine him seeing you without makeup, you don’t mind at all. He likes a lot more than just your appearance.
• Neither you nor he feel the need to “spy” on the other person, check their cell phone or emails to see if there are other potential partners. Your mutual trust is too great for that.
• You have the same attitude towards fundamental questions and you are similar in your life plan. You are both late risers, you would both like to go on a trip around the world or you would rather cuddle together on the sofa than go to the next party.
• He makes you feel like he’s there for you. When you’re feeling down, he comforts you, lifts you up after a hard day’s work and cooks you your favorite meal. He does everything to make you feel comfortable.
• There are discussions and arguments, but you can lead them well and maturely together and manage to find a solution together.
• You make plans for the future together. Why not paint the absolute dream house on the beach together or plan a party together?
• It doesn’t matter what he looks like. External appearances are no longer so important to you, his personality is the most beautiful thing about him anyway.
• Everything is different with him. You just feel it. You have never felt like him with any other partner before and the butterflies in your stomach every time you see him speak a clear language. You want to spend your life with this person.

If not all of the above points apply, this does not automatically mean that a relationship would be a wrong decision. The most important thing is that you listen to your heart and feel good about it.

You dared to take the step and are in a relationship? Here you can read about the tips you can use to lead a long and happy relationship .